Spanish Reflexive Verbs: How to Use them in everyday speech

Spanish Reflexive Verbs – When and How to Use them


Reflexive verbs are an integral and important piece of Spanish grammar that many English speakers struggle with.

We tend to understand clearly when the natural English equivalent includes some sort of “self” (for example: seat yourself, talk to your self, harm yourself, etc), but the challenge is that in Spanish, many everyday actions require the equivalent of “self” even though you would rarely say it in English. In fact, if you were to say “self” it would sound strange (even if you’re from the deep south :).

Here is a quick video I recorded during one of our “video viernes” lessons on when and how to use Spanish reflexive verbs:

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Let’s break down when you use Spanish reflexive verbs:

I try to never say that anything is easy when you’re learning Spanish because that usually just upsets the folks who struggle with a particular topic. I will say, however, that once you spend some time with the language, you begin to see how reflexive verbs are different from verbs that aren’t reflexive. Here is when you need to use a reflexive verb:

If the subject of the verb is also receiving the action of the verb, it is reflexive, and therefore you must use the reflexive construction. In technical terms, if the subject is the object of the verb, it’s reflexive. For example:

Reflexive: Not reflexive:
-John wakes up at 6am every day. -John wakes his children at 7am every day.
-Linda takes a bath twice a week. -Linda bathes her dog one time a month.

In the examples above, you can see how reflexive verbs always have an action that is implicitly being done to the subject. When the verb is not reflexive, there is a separate object that receives the action.

And now we need to discuss how to use reflexive verbs in Spanish:

To make a verb reflexive in Spanish, you have to use the reflexive pronoun. Here is a common verb (llamarse) which means “to call yourself”. The reflexive pronouns are:

Subject Reflexive Pronoun Verb (llamarse)
Yo Me Llamo
Te Llamas
Él / Ella / Usted Se Llama
Nosotros (as) Nos Llamamos
Ellos / Ellas / Ustedes Se Llaman

So when you want to say “her name is Maria” you combine the subject, reflexive pronoun and the verb form: Ella se llama María.

Most verbs could be reflexive or not reflexive, but some are more common than others:

In theory you could make any Spanish verb reflexive, but they don’t all make good sense. For example:

  • el verbo levantar: you can lift an object (levantar _____) or lift yourself (levantarse = get up).
  • el verbo hablar: you can speak a language (hablar español) or speak to yourself (hablarse).

Verbs that don’t usually make sense in a reflexive construction might be “soñar” for example (to dream). It’s tough to imagine a situation in which you would dream yourself.

Here is a great list of common reflexive verbs and their non-reflexive equivalents in Spanish:

Not Reflexive Reflexive
acercar: to bring near acercarse: to approach
acordar (o-ue): to agree (to) acordarse (o-ue): to remember
acostar (o-ue): to put to bed acostarse (o-ue): to go to bed
bañar: to bathe (someone) bañarse: to bathe (oneself)
burlar: to trick, deceive burlarse (de): to make fun of
decidir: to decide decidirse (a): to make up one’s mind
despedir (e-i): to discharge, fire despedirse (de): (e-i, e-i) to say goodbye
despertar (e-ie): to awaken (someone) despertarse (e-ie): to wake up
divertir (e-ie, e-i) to amuse divertirse (e-ie, e-i): to have a good time
dormir (o-ue, o-u) to sleep dormirse (o-ue, o-u): to fall asleep
enojar: to anger (someone) enojarse: to get angry
fijar: to fix, fasten fijarse: to notice
hacer: to do, make hacerse: to become (with effort)
levantar: to raise, lift levantarse: to get up
llamar: to call llamarse: to be called, to be named
negar (e-ie): to deny negarse (e-ie): to refuse
parecer: to seem, appear parecerse: to resemble
poner: to put, place ponerse: to put on (clothing)
ponerse a: to begin to do something ponerse + emotion: to become (emotion)
preocupar: to preoccupy preocuparse (de, por, con): to worry (about)
quitar: to take away, remove quitarse: to take off (clothing)
sentar (e-ie): to seat (someone) sentarse (e-ie): to sit down
subir: to go up, raise subirse: to get on (scale, table, bus)
vestir (e-i, e-i): to dress (someone) vestirse (e-i, e-i): to get dressed
volver: to return volverse (o-ue): to turn around
volverse + emotion: to suddenly change

And here are a small handful of Spanish reflexive verbs that don’t usually have a non-reflexive equivalent:

  • atreverse (a): to dare
  • arrepentirse (de): to repent, regret
  • jactarse (de): to boast
  • quejarse (de): to complain
  • darse cuenta (de): to realizes
  • comerse: to eat it all up
  • morirse (o-ue, o-u): to die
  • pagarse: to pay up

In a lot of ways, with the verbs you see listed above, the reflexive version carries a different meaning. I’ve always thought it was a good idea to separate the reflexive and non reflexive versions in you mind and treat them as separate verbs so that the difference in meaning (subtle or large) remains clear to you.

Now it’s your turn! I packaged all of this vocabulary in Spanish into some flashcards for you to study.

Btw: If you’re working on learning Spanish and you just can’t seem to get it to stick, maybe Spanish immersion is what you need. You’d be amazed at what a couple of weeks would do for you!

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